What is the tantric attitude todards extreme vice? If a person is on the receiving end of, say, betrayal, murder of a family member, physical violence, rape, etc... Is it possible to maintain a Tantric attitude at the moment that the vice is being committed on her? And what would be a Tantric attitude towards the vice, and towards the person committing it?
I am reading "Desire: the Tantric Path to Awakening" by Daniel Odier. He speaks about being fully present to reality through sensorality. Indeed, I can see how developing a raw, non-judgmental, spontaneous consciousness would ultimately result in a nearly orgasmic lust for life... in a neutral environment. But some unfortunate people experience daily torture, pain, suffering, and cruelty. And their physical, emotional, and spiritual senses transmit a completely different reality to the consciousness... Unless one puts up mental blocks, being fully present to the moment means surrenduring to suffering. Is Tantra only applicable in the pre- and post- traumatic states, as a rebalancing/healing attitude?
~Slava
I am reading "Desire: the Tantric Path to Awakening" by Daniel Odier. He speaks about being fully present to reality through sensorality. Indeed, I can see how developing a raw, non-judgmental, spontaneous consciousness would ultimately result in a nearly orgasmic lust for life... in a neutral environment. But some unfortunate people experience daily torture, pain, suffering, and cruelty. And their physical, emotional, and spiritual senses transmit a completely different reality to the consciousness... Unless one puts up mental blocks, being fully present to the moment means surrenduring to suffering. Is Tantra only applicable in the pre- and post- traumatic states, as a rebalancing/healing attitude?
~Slava
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 12:35 PMHello, Slava.
Your question begins with an unstated assumption, that there is a single "Tantric attitude." Tantra has evolved over thousands of years and traveled all over the world, resulting in numerous traditions or "schools" of Tantra, each having its own viewpoint on a variety of things. Nobody, including myself and everyone else on this or any other website or in any book can speak for Tantra. We can only represent those schools of Tantra of which we are aware.
That being said, and with that understanding, from the traditions I have studied and practiced, the question you ask seems to be more related to concepts of karma--which is associated with many, if not most Tantric traditions--more than Tantra per se.
There is a Westernized concept of what might be called "neo-karma" that is very popular. According to this belief, karma is not simply the working of action and reaction for the purpose of educating a person toward a more spiritual life. According to neo-karma, the purpose is reward and punishment for actions, and, therefore, can be ameliorated by each person's intent. For example, if person X kills person Y, but didn't mean to do so (perhaps it was an accident), then the effect of karma is far less than if person X had intended to kill Y.
Traditionally, however, karma does not involve intent whatsoever. It can be thought of as dropping a rock into the center of a calm pond. Waves--karma--expand from the point of impact of the rock into the water. It doesn't matter if you intended to drop the rock or not. The only thing that matters is that the rock is dropped.
But let's bring this into a more to the point example. Assume I took an axe and cut off your arm. Chances are you would say that it was a horrible act. But what if we were a week away from medical help and you had received a serious cut to your arm which became infected resulting in gangrene. The only way to save your life would be to remove your arm, and the axe was the best tool at hand for doing this. In this case, although you would certainly be upset for losing your arm, you might thank me for saving your life.
So here's the thing: the act was the same; it is our interpretation of the act based on information we have that changes. Acts are simply that: acts.
By this viewpoint, the concept of "vice" makes no sense. It is simply an action or set of actions on which we have placed a value judgement. Many people today would consider prostitution, the selling of sex, a "vice." Yet, in the past, in certain areas of the practice of young women selling sex to a man and then turning the money over to the temple of the goddess, was an honored duty. So what is the selling of sex, a vice or a sacred duty? Some people consider oral copulation or homosexuality to be a vice. Many others do not.
But let's get back to karma. Perhaps a parent beats a child and you step in and stop the parent in a slowly accelerating way, starting with talking and eventually leading to the crippling of the abusing parent so they could no longer harm the child. You would experience the karmic result of crippling that person. Perhaps the beatings of the child lead the child to start a movement against child abuse which saves millions of children from abuse. Your stopping the abuse of that one child would be responsible for the abuse of millions.
So in my opinion--and that's from the point of view of a Tantric, not as a spokesperson for all of Tantra--the concept is to separate action from interpretation of the meaning of the action. Actions are just that. They are not "vice," they are simply actions. You or I interpret them as good or evil. Person L blows himself up killing hundreds of people. To some he is an evil terrorist. To others he is a honorable, self-sacrificing freedom-fighter. To me, he just did an act. My response is going to be based on my understanding of karma. This certainly is the what Gandhi acted. It is possible to stand in opposition to acts you believe are wrong by not committing actions that result in unwanted actions of karma.
The goal, then, is to achieve a life that is no longer moved and directed as the result of karma and not incurring karma. I do not claim to be at that level. In my current consciousness, I'm not even sure I'd want to be there. What I do know is that if I saw someone abusing a child or raping a woman, I would do whatever is necessary to stand up and oppose that person, including, if necessary, causing that person physical harm or even killing that person. I would do so knowing that I would incur karmic reaction if I harm or kill that person. And I would do so willingly and without hesitation.
You say that "being fully present to the moment means surrendering to suffering." Well, if you walked up to someone and scratched them deeply with your fingernails, that person would probably object strongly for the harm you have done to them. However, if you were both in the passionate throes of sexual activity, such a person might find that pain highly pleasurable. The scratching is simply an action. Interpreting it as pain or pleasure is just an interpretation. What one person considers suffering another might consider pleasurable. Tying someone to a cross and whipping them is torture to one person and pleasure leading to "bottom space" to another.
Does that mean you SHOULD surrender to suffering? I don't think so. But that is sort of like the question asked of Conscientious Objectors back in the 1960s: If you are in a room and there's a button there, and you know that pushing that button would kill a person preventing him from pushing a button that would launch a nuclear weapon that would kill a million people, would you push your button and kill him? The question is a false question because it's totally imaginary. How did you get into this room with its magic button? What led you to get there? Why did you make stupid decisions that led you to a position where you are surrendering to suffering?
One of the keys to blockages to freedom is the klesha known as avidya, ignorance. To reach a point where you are in a position where you are suffering, you would have had to make several decisions that were based on ignorance. Thus, by adopting what I would consider to be a Tantric view, you would examine each decision to determine what the correct action should be. The result is that you should never end up in a position where suffering is inevitable. There is no suffering to which you would surrender because you're never in such a position. And, as I wrote, if I saw suffering in someone else, I would work to stop that suffering, even if it would result in unwanted karma.
Your question seems simple, but is highly complex. I hope what I've replied here will give you a general and broad introduction to dealing with the concept. It is far from complete and, again, it is just one Tantric viewpoint.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 3:05 PMThank you for the indepth response, Shambhalanth. I will be re-reading it again, for you bring up some points that I would like to ponder further.
I'd like to clarify my question, though. I'm not referring to situations where there is insufficient information to warrant the passing of a judgement. Nor am I referring to the karma surrounding the person committing cruel acts. Instead, I am asking about the internal state of the person on the receiving (or observing) end or another's undeniable and intended cruelty. Here are a few examples:
(1) Suppose that I end up in the hands of a known serial killer who takes sinister pleasure from watching people suffer under his exquisite and prolonged torture. Can I retain a "Tantric" state of being or attitude while undergoing this kind of suffering?
(2) Suppose I witness a man consistently getting his kicks out of physically and emotionally abusing his wife who does not know the language or laws of this country and doesn't know she has a way out. Suppose I am not in a position to help her. What would be an appropriate attitude for me to take on, from a Tantric perspective?
(P.S. I realize there are different Tantric paths. I have yet to learn about their differences, but you are correct in noting that my questions are based on an assumption. The assumption being, that all paths under the Tantric umbrella at their core share some common foundation, some common outlook, some common...something. I am still new to this:)) -
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 3:39 PMIf I saw either situation 1 or 2 occuring I would either say or do something and likely both. According to my belief system, I would have a moral obligation to do so.
Passive indifference wouldn't be an option for me.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 6:38 PMI should have clarified: both examples 1 & 2 assume a practical incapacity to change the situation. So all that remains in the moment is the experience of suffering. -
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 6:50 PMIn the instant of number 2 - a more realistic possibility - I would report him to the authorities or exact upon him the same darkness that MOFO is manifesting upon the woman if the circumstances warranted/allowed such action.
I think he would more clearly understand the nature of cause and effect than watching the Secret or studying East Indian texts:
Take advantage of and habitually abuse a woman; get hit with pipe; go to jail.
Ow.
Oh: there's the light.
~V~
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Wed, April 16, 2008 - 12:03 AMSlava wrote: "Suppose that I end up in the hands of a known serial killer who takes sinister pleasure from watching people suffer under his exquisite and prolonged torture. Can I retain a "Tantric" state of being or attitude while undergoing this kind of suffering? "
I would have to respond with several questions: How does one "end up" in the hands of a serial killer? Was this person just walking down Mainstreet and going into Starbucks when somebody jumped out of a van, grabbed them, and made them suffer? I would suggest that there is a long road down which a person travels before being put in such a position. One aspect of Tantra, in at least one of the traditions I was taught, including opening your awareness to the energy of others. You might call it improving your intuition or just becoming more aware of the subtle signs and body language of others. As a result, I would contend that a person who is following a Traditional Tantric path (as opposed to a Neo-Tantric path) is less likely to fall victim to such a sadist. Further, you'd have to define what you mean by a "Tantric state of being or attitude."
Slava wrote: "Suppose I witness a man consistently getting his kicks out of physically and emotionally abusing his wife who does not know the language or laws of this country and doesn't know she has a way out. Suppose I am not in a position to help her. What would be an appropriate attitude for me to take on, from a Tantric perspective?"
I guess you could also suppose that there are little Green men on Mars who would automatically come down to Earth and help her! :-)
The problem with your question is that it puts so many "what ifs" into play that it's impossible to give a real-world answer. As I wrote, if I saw a man abusing a woman I would stop him, even if it meant using violence and consciously knowing that a violent act on my part would result in an unwanted karmic response. I guess I just can't conceive of a situation where, if you observed such abuse, there would be nothing you could do. You could call the police. You could call a women's center. There are many ways to help without physical involvement. If you're incapable of helping her--that is, not even able to make a phone call--how did you even see the abuse?
There are several classical Tantric texts that clearly state that Tantra is not for the common person (pashu), but rather for the hero (vira). Acting might cause problems for you in any of a variety of ways. But IMO heroism is doing what you know is right when every aspect of your being is telling you not to do it.
I would suggest that the underling common foundation in various Traditional Tantric paths is the worship of Shiva and Shakti. The manifestation of that takes many forms. In Neo-Tantra, the underlying common foundation seems to be working with the energy represented by Shiva/Shakti. I imagine others here will disagree with this and that's because there are so many different paths and traditions.
The Tantric "Crazy Naths" do crazy things to try and break people out of their everyday consciousness.
Certain Tantrics focus on the worship of the Sri Yantra and its 9-chakra system.
Other Tantrics focus on the breaking of Taboos, going so far as to have sex with corpses.
Other Tantrics still practice animal sacrifice.
I'm not sure about their having any broader "umbrella at their core" other than what I mentioned.
Personally, I think your questions are highly intelligent, pointed, and focused. One of my teachers wrote down a Sufi saying: "Beware of too much study or you may become a scholar." In my experience, both Traditional Tantric paths and Neo-Tantric paths have such a strong focus on the physical world (as a source of spirituality) that a key method of instruction is experiential rather than from reading books or posts from a fool like me!
One of my teachers described Tantric work as a type of scientific experiment, and the magical puja being a veritable scientific laboratory. Trying things out--succeeding at some and failing at others--leads to spiritual and physical advancement. Failure teaches what doesn't work and is a wonderful teacher, perhaps even greater than success.
Slava, beside being a Tantric I am also a hypnotherapist. One of my teachers of hypnotherapy likes to present this formula:
C>E
The basic idea is that most people are "at effect," where everything buffets you around and you are at the victim of the actions of others, the government, the stars, your height, your weight, your parents, your education, etc. Some people, however, are "at cause." They see themselves as being the cause for everything in their lives. This means they can achieve whatever they want, they can do whatever they want, and are not victims. While this is not Tantric per se, it is very similar to the Tantric concept known as Svecchacarya. This means that Tantrics who follow this concept do what they will. It is also a precursor by thousands of years to St. Augustine's "Love God and do as thou wilt," Crowley's "Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law," and the Neopagan rede of "An it harm none, do what thou wilt." It is, once again, the path of the vira (hero).
Now, I don't know if C>E is a reality, but it does make a good metaphor for the way we each live our lives. In each of your examples, you are placing yourself "at effect" rather than "at cause." I would respectfully suggest that a Tantric, instead of thinking "I'm stuck in this situation and can only respond to it" would be more likely to think "There is some reason I'm in this situation. What led to it, what can I learn from it, what will ending it accomplish, and how can I make sure that I don't need to experience it again?" Cause or effect, it's the choice of each of us. And I find that particularly Tantric.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Wed, April 16, 2008 - 8:23 AMThank you again Shambhalanth.
"Now, I don't know if C>E is a reality, but it does make a good metaphor for the way we each live our lives. In each of your examples, you are placing yourself "at effect" rather than 'at cause.'"
That's it! That's the issue I was trying to present with my "what if's". I should have been more clear. The two questions were not meant to ask "what would you do in this situation". Rather, I am trying to see how to [internally] reconcile the existance of evil with an attempt to take ownership of - and responsibility for - my own reality. The literature on Tantra that I have been reading has inspired me to try placing myself "at cause" (thank you for the term), but I am finding myself lost when hearing about situations were I cannot make any truly significant difference. That's why I presented the 2 extreme situations - to show examples of situations where I would be unable to extract evil from my reality. On some level I feel that if there is any cruelty happening anywhere in the world, then somehow it is a part of me. And I don't like that.
I need to meditate on this a bit more. I feel an answer is close... something along the lines of suffering and destruction being just as much a true aspect of our nature and reality as sensorality and joy... and a truly full, honest Consciousness consisting of being present to both - whether we like it or not. Or something like that;)
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 1:25 PMhow could the tantric paradigm re: torture&cruelty be anything but of complete rejection and intervention ?
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Tue, April 15, 2008 - 3:02 PMMiss Predeslava,
You want to be as healthy and as balanced as you can be. Then when tragedy or adversity or excitement or violation or romance comes,... then watch and see how you act, react, respond. It could be a big mistake to rehearse your emotions before the act takes place. Let it happen. Being one with yourself you'll know how to be. And it's OK to be correct,... and to reject evil, as best you know what that is for yourself.
One person's bed of roses is another's bed of nails is another's sundance for you.
Picture the Nataraj, the Dancing Shiva, for whom it's all a big cosmic dance.
Om namah Shivaya
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Wed, April 16, 2008 - 10:57 AMVery simply, you can take matters into your own hands, and just be ready for anything.
Or,......
Roleplay can be tremendous fun and great home theatre. The what-ifs often boil down to a question of "If I am being held, helpless against my will, by some wicked bad people who then had their way with me, would I then still be held answerable by God, the Universe, and my fellow man for acts suffered? ......even if I'm not drunk at the time?"
The roleplay format gives us huge latitude to indulge nasty fantasy, guilt-free... the advantage being that one is freed from having to own responsibility for moral decisions.
But then, we think, just in case that Universe's 'karma' may rule against us for our make-believe submission, our unwilling participation in acts involving pain & degradation... then is there some Earthly authority who can grant absolution?
Pray, merciful Mother Mary, in your avatar as munificent Durge Ma,...
In your infinite grace, ... please release us from deception... reveal unto us the light of truth, we pray theee. Amen
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Sun, April 27, 2008 - 6:05 AMPredslava;
I'll offer a different perspective on this, one that maybe will help sort it out for you. Again, as with Shambalanath, I can only offer my perspective as "one" aspect, not "the" aspect of Tantra that would cover this...
First, my philosopphy is one of vibratory rates, not "cause" or "effect." As we get closer to "truth" or "enlightenment" in our spiritual journey, our vibration raises higher and higher. Folks with lower vibratory rates are probably the same people that were refered to as "in effect" earlier. These are the folks who find themselves in situations that they cannot control and are on the recieving end of the suffering. As we study Tantra and work through the rituals, we raise our vibratory rate, allowing us to gain some remarkable skills.
When we vibrate higher, we get more information out of our immediiate environment. Energies become more visible/audible than they are to those who are at lower vibratory levels. Knowledge and supplies that we need are at our fingertips when we need it. We understand our own actions more clearly, and are more Willful in their execution. We can sometimes even "hear" the thoughts of other people, or at least know for certain their intentions, rather than guessing at them. Life for higher vibrating people, in general, gets easier.
It's fairly common knowledge that the more energy any one person puts behind a desire, the more likely that desire is to manifest. (this trick is taught in every seminar on "getting rich" on the market.) However, the inverse is true for fears; the more you fear something, the more likely it is that you will create actions (with or without intent) that will make your fear manifest. If I drive in fear, I'm more likely to make a mistake that will cause an accident. Abusers can spot a potential victim simply by observing postures and interactions---who is less likely to struggle, someone with confidence or someone lacking it?
It is for this reason that it's hard for me to fathom a Tantrically trained individual getting into a situation that she cannot get out of. Raising vibration requires letting go of fears. Fears are what draws suffering to you in the first place. If you fear being caught by a serial killer, chances are, your vibration will be so low that you will carry yourself like a victim, thus raising the chances of becoming a victim. Once you are trained to be in a Tantric mindset, to be fully present, to allow fears to fall away from you as your vibration rises, you change your posture, you change your attitude, you become the person more likely to struggle and thus less likely to become a target in the first place.
It's the opposite of the "downward spiral" into helplessness---it's using the same science in reverse, an "upward spiral" of confidence...
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Sun, April 27, 2008 - 10:07 AM.......some 4-letter words:
- love
- fear
- hate
.....the dirtiest 4-letter word in the English language = "fear".
get over it; release yourself from it; overcome it; leave it behind.
Review your options.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Sun, April 27, 2008 - 1:30 PMBriggi, fear and hate are both forms of attachment. Most of what is called "love" in the West is actually about possession, and thus, is also about attachment.
It's really easy to say, "get over it; release...it; overcome it; leave it behind." I'm with ya.
But when I regularly gave Tarot readings I would often tell clients, "This advice is easy for me to say, but it's more difficult for anyone to do." At least I recognized the dichotomy between telling someone to "get over it" and giving practical ideas on how they can actually do it.
So what are your practical ideas, your specific, spelled-out ways to "get over it; release...it; overcome it; leave it behind?"
Please share.
Namaste!
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Mon, April 28, 2008 - 1:50 PMGiven a clue, a lady will be pretty good at figuring out the rest. When Miss Predslava indicates readiness.... & hunger for elaboration, this shall be joyfully furnished.
b!
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:53 PMThere have been many enlightened masters who have experienced torture and mistreatment from others. Many serious spiritual practitioners have found themselves in situations where they have been beaten and tortured, as has been the case for “Any monks, nuns, and lamas who were caught were disrobed, imprisoned, humiliated, beaten, and tortured mercilessly” according to Nyoshul Khenpo Rinpoche, an enlightened master born in Tibet, speaking of why he fled Tibet for his life.
One cannot assume that simply by being “enlightened” or by maintaining higher vibrational levels, one can avoid all physically painful situations with the idea that if we are truly enlightened, we would not attract such situations. This is simply not the case. Buddha died from accidentally eating poison mushrooms – a rather physically torturous way to die but he maintained a level of non-attachment to the physical suffering which allowed him to die “peacefully”.
What a “tantric (if one is going to use general terms) attitude" in the face of physical pain, trauma, etcetera means is realizing that what is taking place in that moment *is* what it *is* and observing what *is* without judgment. In bringing focused, aware attention to the present moment in this way – we free ourselves to act appropriately from a deeper state of presence – that of *Being*. Thus, we can act appropriately in whatever situation we find ourselves rather than reacting from a state of fear.
Physical pain may still be present but the emotional and mental “suffering” which fear and the attachment to causes and outcomes fear brings with it, is removed. A state of peace can then be maintained even in the midst of chaos.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Mon, April 28, 2008 - 1:53 PMTo me personally, pain & suffering are to be avoided....[ with all due respect to schools using escalated stimulii for realization -- flagellantes, sundancers, nailbed fakirs, sacred piercers, et al.] ... Pleasure, being the motivator attractive for me.
b!
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Sat, May 3, 2008 - 5:32 PMThank you B for understanding my question and responding.
You write: "What a “tantric (if one is going to use general terms) attitude" in the face of physical pain, trauma, etcetera means is realizing that what is taking place in that moment *is* what it *is* and observing what *is* without judgment."
That seems to be the key, doesn't it. I find the most challenging aspect of the topic to be not so much the issue of pain itself - for in a state of pure excrutiating pain on no longer thinks clearly enough to contemplate fear, hate, etc. Rather, the challenge comes in figuring out how to maintain non-judgement of the person inflicting torture. I am reminded of the stories of christian persecution in ancient times, where martyrs regarded their torture-ers as being spiritually ill. This allowed them to maintain love throughout the tremendous suffering they endured. Me personally - I don't know if I can love, or even maintain a lack of judgement towards, someone who is cruel. I'm more prone to "righteous wrath" towards cruelty. But the wrath, no matter how righteous, leaves me feeling helpless when I can't make a difference and put a stop to someone being hurt. Meditating to a place where I no longer feel wrath towards cruely feels almost... more sininster, heh. I'm beginning to wonder is there might be a whole side to Tantra that is not explored much in the west (possibly due to our addiction to comfort and ease of living) - one that deals with a more whole/complete reality... which would include the darker side of our existance/nature. -
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 9:50 AMPradslava,
You "wondered" what I was thinking as I read the post above.
I can not speak with knowledge of the history or current state of Tantric tradition or practice, but I am very much aware of needs along the overall Path of enlightenment for searching out and embracing not just treasures, but whole realms, obscured in the darkness.
And the quests into such places are fraught with the 'oops I went too far' predicaments that the personally 'enlightened', or 'highly vibrating', or I might say 'attuned' (as a specific sub-aspect of those broader states of heightened being), will regularly find themselves in. Studying the hows, whys, and where fors, for lessons learned, is noble and needful exercise, and is a thing that ought occur, but for practical purposes, assuming the conclusions are not excruciatingly clear and of immediate use, this is best accomplished once the situation at hand has been dealt with.
Perhaps journeys that intentionally take one through such places are best reserved for 'heros' or some other corralling of our fellow travelers, but I suspect that this distinction is one of degrees of 'herodom' more so than a strict division between fellow travelers. Therefore, the hypothetical, and by my observation empirically based, 'oops' predicaments are a valid, common, and practical concern to all - perhaps in corresponding 'degrees'.
I do not mean any harm or disrespect to any who care about an ascending existence, and others who are accompanying on the collective journey, so please forgive me [and feel free to set me straight if I misspeak out of some ignorance] but I wonder if we ALL do ourselves and our greatest cause(s) a grave injustice in shunning 'judgement' and striving for a disassociation from our pain. I do not hesitate to acknowledge the supreme usefulness of the trained talent of stepping outside of our sensory and emotional construct at times, as a device for maintaining calm under fire, or making and executing a self-sacrificing decision (say jumping on a grenade to save our company, or giving the life raft to mothers with children) (or so simple as biting our tongue rather than using unnecessarily harsh words with our loved ones) BUT to do this as a primary modus operandi denies us of our carnal experience, which seems to be the very antithesis of the 'live in the now' mantra. Depending on definitions of terms, it seems to contradict the essence of life.
My driving concern here is that 'ultimate enlightenment ' should not merely be a code phrase for accepting the biddings of Entropy.
The suggestion I would extend is that we need to overcome our 'nearly instinctive' close association of 'darkness' with 'evil'. The 'fear' of the darkness, which served as a survival trait in primeval times, nows stands as a masked barrier to our healthy travels. (Much like the metabolism and physiology that protected our forbears from starvation now serves to aid us in our aspirations to obesity.) BUIT THAT is a whole nutha subject.
In an ironic sort of way, the BDSM and fetish alternative lifestylers, alluded to above, seem to have a couple toes already in those deep dark waters. I for One, feel that life is an adventure, and so for Me I revel in the exploring, discovering, and pioneering.
My respect and appreciation to you all.
Onehorse
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:26 AMIf we define 'victim' as one who has not actively, or through significant, avoidable negligence, created the situation they find themselves in, we have a hope to avoid endless point and counterpoint as to how we are all responsible for and could have avoided whatever situation we find ourselves in. If we further accept that there are situations that endure over sizable (in mortal terms) time periods, and that some such situations, once instigated do not afford us with the realistic possibility to undue or substantially remedy, then we have a victim in a situation of continuing suffering.
In this way we can cut closer to the heart of the dilemma first stated. Whatever the genesis, circumstances arise, (and I would argue, with significant regularity and considerable demand to be dealt with), and it behooves a holistic world view and system of practicing belief to encompass the circumstance and address the matter of the victim (and observers of the victim/circumstance) can successfully ply the tenets of their practice.
I believe the first great stumbling block, once the hypothetical scenario has been agreed upon, is the rampant blurring of the lines between 'being' and 'doing'. The symbol, howsoever powerful and evocative, is not the thing. (Conversely, contrary to what many who gain and expound that wisdom presume - the symbol IS 'A thing'...but that too is another discussion altogether.)
While I personally confess to holding beliefs as to the nature of good and evil, I find myself far to frequently in the company of 'pragmatic' nihilist--existentialist--two-dimensional-zen thinkers to dwell on that topic if there is anything else to be accomplished in a given week. That said, and largely for that reason, I have taken to a more defensible-in-discourse position that there is 'ascending' and 'entropic'. This allows one to take into account the various perspectives on a given situation, from the cosmic perspective, without necessarily claiming to know what that is.
It also nudges us into thinking of 'what we do' as discrete from 'what we are', without denying the inextricable interconnection between the two. If you would indulge me in taking temporary liberty with the Tantra moniker, I would propose that 'Tantra' might best be considered the Symbol for the Body of Belief, 'Tantric State' might best be considered the label for a practitioners aspired (or actual) state of being, and 'Tantric Practice' might best indicate the collection of discernible motives for actions, actions taken/avoided, and anticipated and actual outcomes of the actions/inactions.
In my view of ascension, we are, for whatever reason and with whatever chances of success, tasked with (and offered the great adventure of 'free will' to pursue) a journey from the glorious universe in which we began, through the universe(s) we are in, to a new and somehow 'ascended' universe to come. I am full of theories, but none I am prepared to claim as truth, or put forth in debate at the moment, as to the nature of the 'ascended' universe, but use the working definition of 'that which is to be hoped for".
Out of this view we can then (and most of us probably have to varying degrees) suppose there to be possible paths we can endeavor to follow, that will lead us in that direction. We can view the energy we put forth as sacrifice or investment, and we can think of the subset of paths within our vision as blessed choices, or woeful limitations - this choice is PART of our application of will. Choosing the former affords us with much greater opportunity to prosper along one or more of the paths at hand, BUT we can certainly hold out, stubbornly insisting on access to another path...that too is a choice at our hands...one that is often indiscernible from the "do nothing' path that each of us generally has. HOWEVER, that is the 'from the sky' view...on Terra firma we realize that it is all about the actions we take.
More often than not, when we ask for 'help' from others we are seeking advice or information to help us make decisions about what actions we could, should and will or will not take. Even when we are 'just curious' about the knowledge, opinions and feelings of others, we are still busy storing the data gathered for use in making future decisions.
Following in that context then, in the face of "extreme vice" (and definitely not speaking on behalf of Tantra in any of the senses noted above), the individual's chosen (and/or yet to be chosen) paths, allow for (and/or extract) a compliment of available (in)actions, from among which we WILL choose and perform.
On the rare occasions when someone asks for my advice, I invariably offer that we should try to do what we believe will contribute most to the overall 'ascension' of our sentient community, but emphatically reminding them that there are often many alternative ways to benefit the big picture, and that the immediate 'good of the one' can, does and should, often outweigh the possible future 'good of the many'. If I kill a killer but save a bloodline I buy the fuller race some more time. If I spare a killer but see that he's safely incarcerated, and he is studied with a great degree of success, gaining usable insight into how to help others NOT end up like him, that too has rather likely contributed to the 'ascension' goal.
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Re: victims of torture / cruelty
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:27 PMHello, OneHorse.
I would respectfully suggest that it is a misunderstanding on your part if you think that Tantric traditions and philosophies encourage, in your words, "a disassociation from our pain." Nothing could be further from the truth. I would suggest, instead, that non-Tantric interpret and put a value judgement on the nature of the pain rather than accepting it simply as a sensation.
If I stuck you with a pin, it is quite likely that you would say that I had caused you a minor pain (well, depending upon where the pin was stuck). However, I happen to know several people who are diabetic and who stick themselves with a pin several times daily. They may not notice the pain but they certainly don't qualify it as good or evil, rather, they look upon it as necessary. By that same token, no pain is good or bad, it simply is. Calling a pain good or evil is simply a quality we attach to it, and attachments can end up controlling us and destroying our lives.
Similarly, I must reject you definition of "victim." By your definition you have set up conclusions based upon the definition. As a comparison, if you say that a person is being tortured only if they suffer permanent organ damage or death, then you could commit all sorts of terrible acts upon someone and say it wasn't torture.
I would contend that if you follow the concept of karma--which is an aspect of all the Tantric systems I know--then the idea of a victim is meaningless. Rather, a person has experiences he or she interprets as suffering as a means of instructing them in behavior for the future and in future lives. This has an additional advantage.
When you acknowledge that you are the cause of everything that happens to you, you are in power in your life. You are no longer the victim of others. You are no longer the victim of chance. Instead, you can choose what you wish to happen in your life.
The truth is, however, that most people want to be victims. They will tell you they don't want to be victims, but whenever something bad happens, if they accept their victimhood, they don't have to accept responsibility. People aren't failures because of their actions, they're failures because of poor food, poor parenting, poor education, poor opportunities, living in a poor neighborhood, etc. If you accept that you are at cause for all that happens in your life, you are responsible for your successes and failures, your joys and unhappinesses.
Few people are willing to accept this responsibility. That is why it is said that Tantra is not the path for everyone. Rather, it is the path for heroes (viras), and not the common person.
Some may say that this is elitist. The fact is, it is elitist. But unlike the elites of the past, this is an elite that anyone can join at any time. All you have to do is chose to be responsible for your actions. All you have to do is choose not to be a victim. All you have to do is choose to be a hero.
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Victims - The devil made me do it
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 10:17 AMShambhalanth,
I saw the writing on the wall with regard to the notion of 'victim' , that being the subject of the post title, which is precisely why I attempted to put some qualifying stipulations around the concept. It seems to me that if we ALTOGETHER dismiss the existence of 'victims' we accomplish two prominent things.
- First, we neuter the mutually respectful intellectual intercourse on the originally proposed question, by 'defining' the hypothetical out of existence, which imposes, as do all useful definitions, some implied stipulations on the term or symbol - that is after all the gist of a hypothetical supposition. However, outright denying the existence of the hypothetical , seems rather the nuclear bomb or board flip version of such stipulations, which is very much akin to 'changing the subject' and it certainly does not render the notion of the hypothetical invalid, let alone non-existent.
- Second, in denying the existence of 'victim' we conveniently shirk all responsibility for our part, and the parts of others, in creating those victims, which if our conscience is gullible enough to accept such mind bending, will help us alleviate our perceived guilt, but not remove it.
Tantric teachings and thought may well be the origins of the 'take responsibility for oneself' precept, but this notion is well represented in everyday modern culture by the endless purveyors those 'self-help' books, programs and seminars, and has inundated common vernacular and practice in such forms as proferred by the self-pronounced 'pragmatists', the 'just get it doners' and the 'results oriented' pontiffs...I do not deny the often HUGE benefit in taking this approach, HOWEVER, I "reject" the notion that this is the ALL ENCOMPASSING - ALL POWERFUL answer to ALL MATTERS of ascension. I distinguish between a highly useful tool and a panacea.
You stated, "When you acknowledge that you are the cause of everything that happens to you, you are in power in your life. "
I would agree that "When you concentrate on those things that happen to you which you are the cause of, you waste far less time in a useless blame cycle and attempting to second guess the motives and game plan the actions of others, HENCE you focus on the one thing you have a chance to control YOUR OWN ACTIONS. But THAT is not what I read you to have said.
I will go further and say that "If you assert that you are the cause of EVERYTHING that happens to you, that is paramount to saying that no other souls or the rest of nature exist or matter."
Frankly, asserting the obviously profound toolset to it's full extreme, strikes me as far less enlightening, and far more Orwellian Newspeakish. I believe that in the name of enlightenment we may very well be killing the spirit of community and self-accountability that is being touted on the surface. I have observed in many who seek to ingest teachings which elevate 'acceptance' in general, an overwhelming and everpresent sense of self frustration, because no matter how good they become at espousing and meditating the 'uplifting' tenets and doctrine, they find themselves looking not for a few missing pieces, RATHER for "the other HALF' of the puzzle.
While there are definitely some elitist undertones in play here, the dismissal of 'accountability of others' in our personal formulas for understanding and decision making, is a message that has been packaged for, and distributed to the masses. It has served much of organized religion, and other power weilding social engineers, through the ages as a severe deterent to that whole inconvenient free thinking devotees phenomenon.
I would gravely contend that to the extent that there is a need for heroes, it is a need for LEADERS who understand that there are indeed friends and foes to ascension, and we play active, quantum roles in one another's lives, and pain is far more than merely sensed, recorded, and interpreted physical occurrence...in my experience the worst pain by far does not come from a carnal pin prick, or six months of relentless kidney stones, it comes from the inadequately shielded against direct, mental and emotional attacks of others, and indirectly through the institutions that arise from the cumulative acts of those who came before us. In the temporal world, like it or not, we have harmful detractors, if not outright enemies.
I do not wish to over-dwell, quibble or harp, but it appears that while you took pains to discredit the existence of 'victimhood' you then proceeded with a series of reflections that were entirely dependent on the existence of the very phenomenon you disavowed:
"You are no longer the victim of others. You are no longer the victim of chance. Instead, you can choose what you wish to happen in your life.
The truth is, however, that most people want to be victims. They will tell you they don't want to be victims, but whenever something bad happens, if they accept their victimhood, they don't have to accept responsibility. People aren't failures because of their actions, they're failures because of poor food, poor parenting, poor education, poor opportunities, living in a poor neighborhood, etc. ..."
Our ego certainly appears to be the thing that stands between us and the divine, BUT the ego is not our enemy - it is our greatest gift. And thus it is our solemn, and divine obligation to learn to wield it and deal with it, not will it out of existence in the name of ascension. Ascension, for me is moving ahead to a new/enhanced/evolved Divine, not merely reclaiming the one from which we sprung.
Unless, of course, I am simply too pedestrian and unenlightened to see the wisdom in burying the talent of free-will under mountains of succumbing, blind-eye, acceptance, then on judgement day saying "Here ya go God, I did absolutely nothing with the great gift you gave me, just like I knew you wanted me to!" -
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Re: Victims - The devil made me do it
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 7:21 PMHi, One Horse.
I understand what you're saying, and I would submit to you that your position is the difficulty...or perhaps it would be more appropriate to say that the position you present in your first two "prominent things" is representative of a Western, guilt-oriented thought process and, I would contend, contrary to Tantric concepts.
You are correct. It we "define" victimhood out of existence, then we become responsible for our actions and what happens to us. By claiming that we are victims we shirk responsibility and avoid the concept of karma with a big, Bart Simpsonesque, "It's not my fault." It's an opening to a woe-is-me pity party. However, I would suggest turning it around. Instead of saying, "Okay, you're not responsible, you can't change anything, you're meant to suffer and be unhappy," something which you seem to claim is part of "mutually respectful intellectual intercourse," I would suggest that your urging of he acceptance of victimization and victimhood is the antithesis of Tantric concepts, a bowing to the kleshas, and anything but "respectful." Telling someone, "Yes, you're a victim" is the height of being an enabler in a co-dependent relationship. After all, if they're a victim, aren't you going to try to help them instead of allowing them to help themselves?
I disagree that by denying victimhood we shirk our personal responsibility for others. If anything, it's just the opposite. Calling others victims brings us down into their level. Saying we're responsible for what happens to us bring people up, helps them, in Jungian terms, through the process of individuation and into adulthood.
I agree with you that the concept of "take responsibility for oneself" is used by people to sell self-help books and seminars. I would also agree with you that being responsible for oneself should not be thought of as a panacea. However, I also do not think of it as a "tool" for accomplishing goals as you seem to imply. Rather, it is a paradigm by which to live. That's all. Once you have that consciousness that "I am responsible," if something happens you don't like or you become aware of something you'd like to achieve, living in that paradigm leads you to the next question: "How do I achieve it." From there you can develop your methods and establish your tools. The "I'm responsible" paradigm isn't a tool, it just makes you aware that there are tools. The "I'm a victim" paradigm leads to an attitude that there is nothing one can do so the search for tools becomes meaningless and useless.
In a sense, your statement interpreting what I wrote as meaning "no other souls or the rest of nature exist or matter" is close to being accurate. Part of the meaning is actually "I see through the illusions of Maya. We are all interconnected. Everything I do effects everything else." It's a recognizing that the concepts of other souls AS SEPARATE FROM OURSELVES is illusion. Do they exist? Yes, because of Maya. Do they matter? Yes, because we matter.
What I'm saying is not Orwellian Newspeak. However, it is also not Christian-Hindu-Moslem-Buddhist orthodoxy thinking that the world is a horrible place to be. We suffer. We are victims. There is nothing we can do. We must suffer to get off the wheel of samsara and finally cease to reincarnate/get ready for the world to come. I would contend that those concepts, drilled into the heads of most people in the world by orthodoxies intent on maintaining control over people who feel they are powerless is the real Newspeak, and what I'm presenting is speaking truth to power.
I agree with you that many look for the "other half of the puzzle," in doctrines, beliefs, and practices. However, what we don't find within we'll never find outside.
I would suggest that you are mistaking taking personal responsibility for everything that happens in our lives with "the dismissal of 'accountability of others'." Nothing is further from the truth. We still live in a world of Maya. We still live in a world of the unenlightened and of those not even seeking enlightenment. Therefore, to allow for what masquerades as peace, we have laws and rules. Break the law or rule and a person is accountable. I live in Los Angeles. If John in Spokane runs a red light, he has to pay the ticket. The concept of personal responsibility, in this instance, leads me to ask, "What can I learn from this in my life?" (Answer: don't run a red light if I don't want to get a ticket.)
You are correct. I denounce and decry the entire concept of victimhood and victimization. However, I fully recognize that most people seem to dwell in such beliefs. There are some primitive people in Micronesia who build and do rituals around models of airplanes, worshiping as gods their mysterious inhabitants who bring them goods. It's not a joke, it's real. They're known as "cargo cults." I think most people would say that such beliefs are foolish. But they are living in those beliefs. Likewise, I say the concept of living in victimhood is foolish. That does not mean, however, that most people do not live in the foolishness of such a belief. There are also many thousands of people in the U.S. who believe we never landed on the Moon, the Earth is flat, and is barely over 6,000 years old. That doesn't prove they're right, it only shows that they believe in myths.
Finally, I would respectfully suggest that the entire concept of "leaders" is a left over of the Piscean age. Typical of that age is the need for strong leaders and the concomitant innumerable rabble of followers. Inevitably, this leads to my leader is right, yours is wrong. The result has been 2600 years of almost continuous warfare from people following leaders.
In the U.S., the phrase Novus Ordo Seclorum was one of the first to express our ideals: a new order for the ages. We don't (well, we're not supposed to) have kings and queens and royalty, we just have someone who "presides" over part of the government. We don't elect leaders to tell us what to do, we elect representatives whom we, the people, tell what to do (well, that was the original plan). We don't need leaders; we need to accept personal responsibility and lead ourselves. We need to think for ourselves. And that's a scary concept. It means we're responsible.
And what do you call a person who has fears but does what he or she knows what must be done anyway?
A hero.
And that is one of the basic tenets of the systems of Tantra I've trained in and practiced.
BTW, thank you for supporting your positions and letting us share differences in well reasons discourse.
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The position of difficulty...
Fri, May 9, 2008 - 12:39 PMUnderstanding Shambhalanath,
I am now disposed to begin with a thank you. Though any who read our mutually non-brevitous discourse will, I suspect, discern a great deal of talking past one another, I have distilled a great deal of genuine communication from our couple rounds of ascertaining position. It appears your flavor of Tantric ingestion and reflection has gracefully allowed for my sometimes needful "position of difficulty".
It must be said straight away that I meant no diminution with my reference phrase of tool (*teasing* howsoever melodramatic, they are, after all, my favorite contemporary band!) Gentle jest aside, "tools" to me encompass both the incarnation and the ongoing manifestation of the phenomenon, hence the school of thought, the operation, and the connotative implications and contextual derivations - the Tool is sacred. I would have included such sibling amalgams as 'healing' and 'ego'. By this I mean, I do not in any way view the Tantric perspective as inferior, or relegate it to the function of mere device for the furtherance of foul (or benevolent) ego. In fact, I am inclined to concur with the view that such a view is critically central to the present age and climate.
With just that one clarification, I feel very much at ease in saying that ,all of the advantages of employing the perspectives you have expounded and avoiding the pitfalls you have touched on, are abundantly visible and the observations tenable. Were I conversing in a general forum, I would be clumsily attempting to voice something similar to what I've heard from you.
However, in this company, where I have witnessed considerable resonance among those with the heart and quill to guide, in the dedicated direction of this precept that I have, perhaps barbarically, referred to as 'acceptance', it seemed fitting to lean the other direction. In this environ, and with respect for the initial question posed, I took the liberty of finding what I perceived as the edge of the system, (it's a technical systems analyst wisdom/ trained habit), and tested the waters, in hopes of discovering an elasticity of thought. While you have in words stuck largely to the party line, by your non-gushing grace I am convinced that when the chips were down, you would be open to consider the possibility that 'ego' may yet serve a constructive purpose.
If necessary, I would have contended that making the avoidance, ye 'absolute' overcoming, of ego a sacrosanct tenet of an anti-dogmatic school of thinking, would, in effect, amount to the adoption of the grandaddy of all dogma, and thus invoke the resounding call of anathema. *innocent grin* but, with my great gratitude, you have not required that of me - or shall I say, set the conditions wherein I would demand it of myself?
I do not consciously seek concessive victories in the discourse, only the accomplishment that our best thinkers do not fail to exercise some caution when throwing out the bath water - my karma has proven to be prone to a sort of dis-resonant harmonic reinforcement where the negligent discarding of metaphorical babies is concerned.
It was a pleasure meeting minds with you.
My fairest greetings and most encouraging wishes for you all.
Onehorse
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Re: The position of difficulty...
Fri, May 9, 2008 - 4:12 PMAnd my best wishes to you, to, OH. I feel it is very valuable to be able to defend one's position strongly, and disagree without being disagreeable. That is something I believe you do very well--I wish more would do so. I believe we could probably have long discussions, agreeing and disagreeing on various points, without going down the road that leads to invoking the infamous Godwin's Law.
It may well be that you and I will simply have to "agree to disagree," and that is fine.
Oh, and I like Tool, too. In fact, Danny, the drummer, gave me a pair of his sticks by way of a mutual friend. (Although I must say I prefer Lateralus to 10,000 Days...perhaps I'm just used to it.)
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